Your column sometimes refers to chicks with dicks, but I never see anything about my thing: guys with pies. While I identify as a gay man, my ultimate fantasy is a hypermasculine man with a vagina. I had some experience with real vaginas in my younger days and, while I was not attracted to girls, I did love pussy. I've searched the web to tap into a community of like-minded men or FTMs with the goods (or lack of goods). Not much luck. Where can I find real manly men who love their vaginas?
The Impossible Fantasy
I get at least one sad letter a month from gay-identified, pre-op FTMs who complain that they can't find any gay men who can get past the man-with-a-vagina thing. So I'm putting your letter out there in hopes that some gay-identified FTMs will respond. What's up, guys with pies? Why isn't TIF having any luck?
My stepdad is gay. He fell in love with and married my mom anyway, and they appear to have a strong relationship despite his sexual preference they love each other, had a baby together and seem to be committed. A few days ago I found a search for "men seeking men" on his computer. I brought up the subject of their relationship with my mom without telling her what I found, and she said that they're currently monogamous. I don't think she would lie to me about this. Should I tell my mom, confront my stepdad or just keep my mouth shut?
Stepdaughter Needs Assistance For Understanding
There's this sex advice columnist. He's gay, like your stepdad, but he fell in love with another guy and they appear to have a strong relationship they love each other, had a baby together and seem to be committed. So why does this columnist occasionally check out "men seeking men" ads on the Internet? Because even though he has no plans to fuck other men, SNAFU, he nevertheless enjoys checking other men out on the street, on airplanes, at book signings and on personals websites. But why, when he isn't seeking someone to fuck? Why not look at porn? Because sometimes it's more fun to check out real people who wanna be fucked than it is to check out fake people who are just pretending they wanna be fucked.
Finding a search for "men seeking men" on your stepdad's computer tells us nothing about his intentions. And faithful or not, monogamous or not, seeking or not, it's none of your business.
I'm a youngish guy having NSA sex with a friend. Neither of us is in a relationship; we're both really horny and one night we jumped each other. We've talked about how this is just sex, etc., but I'm not really satisfied. Even though the sex is spectacular when it's happening, I feel unfulfilled afterward. My ideal relationship would be concentrating on a single guy and fucking him silly. What's wrong with me? Is a fuck-buddy thing unhealthy?
Help Another Lusty Fucking Lad Address Internal Difficulties
Fuck buddies, friends with benefits, NSA generally speaking, those sorts of arrangements can be healthy. But we're not speaking generally, are we? We're speaking of you and your specific situation. Something's missing, and you obviously know that, HALFLAID. I wouldn't describe that missing something as an emotional connection a person can have an emotional connection with a fuck buddy. No, what's missing is a sense of possibility, a sense that the sex could lead to something more lasting and more intimate. As you can't seem to feel good about the sex absent these things, I would describe NSA sex as unhealthy, from an emotional standpoint, for you. So knock it off.
STRAIGHT RIGHTS UPDATE: A vaccine for two of the most common strains of HPV, the virus that causes genital warts, is currently moving through the federal approval process. HPV can also cause cervical cancer, and the cancers caused by the virus kill 4,000 American women every year. Who could possibly be against the introduction of a vaccine one that has proven 100 percent effective in clinical tests! that will save thousands of women's lives every year? Those "culture of life" assfucks, that's who.
"A new vaccine that protects against cervical cancer has set up a clash between health advocates [and] social conservatives who say immunizing teenagers could encourage sexual activity," the Washington Post reported last week. Doctors want teenage girls to receive the vaccine as a matter of routine when they hit puberty, something the religious right opposes. "Because the vaccine protects against a sexually transmitted virus, many conservatives oppose making it mandatory, citing fears that it could send a subtle message condoning sexual activity before marriage … 'I've talked to some who have said, "This is going to sabotage our abstinence message,"' said Gene Rudd, associate executive director of the Christian Medical and Dental Associations."
The right's abstinence message has bigger problems than this vaccine. Studies have shown that young people are still having premarital sex despite the billions of dollars the Bush administration has poured into abstinence education. A study conducted at Texas A&M University found that kids who've been subjected to abstinence-only sex education have MORE sex than kids who aren't subjected to abstinence-only sex education. So what the right is saying is this: We're willing to kill American women in order to avoid "sabotaging" our ineffectual abstinence-only message. Nice.
Who ultimately gets to determine the government's position on the HPV vaccine? Thanks to George W. Bush, the Christian fundies do. From the Washington Post: "The jockeying [around the HPV vaccine] reflects the growing influence social conservatives … have gained on a broad spectrum of policy issues under the Bush administration. In this case, a former member of the conservative group Focus on the Family serves on the federal panel that is playing a pivotal role in deciding how the vaccine is used." W stands for women that's what he told us when he ran for president. He just never said anything about standing for live women.
I've said it before, straight folks, and I'll say it again: The right-wingers, fundies and sex-phobes don't just have it in for the queers. They're coming for your asses firstname.lastname@example.org