My sister met a creepy old man (COM) when he snuck into a dorm party at my sister's college. He proposed to her on their first date after the party.
Our parents were immediately suspicious because of the large age difference COM is older than they are and my sister is 18 years old. My sister also told COM that our family is well-off. This made them suspicious about COM's sudden "proposal," so our parents hired a private investigator.
It turns out that COM is thrice divorced and has numerous children. The PI also uncovered spousal-abuse charges, restraining orders, two dropped rape charges, tens of thousands of dollars owed in delinquent child support, a slew of canceled credit cards, court judgments against him for other unpaid debts, liens for unpaid taxes, repossessed cars, a foreclosure, several DUIs, plus stalking charges. COM hasn't worked in 10 years and subsists on a small military pension that cannot be garnished to pay his debts or child support. No wonder he wants to marry my sister!
We showed my sister the PI's findings. She denied that any of this information was true, accused us of conspiring against her, and is now more determined than ever to marry COM! My sister will not listen to reason. Our parents have tried. The PI has tried. I have tried. My friends and her friends have tried to talk some sense into her but she won't hear it.
She's planning a big wedding for which our parents have told her they are not paying and says she's in love with "an older gentleman." I am so worried about her and what COM will do with her if she marries him.
Dan, is there anything we can do to prevent her from ruining her life?
My Sister's Keeper
Your letter is so long, MSK, I feel somewhat obligated to pound out an equally lengthy response, but "nope" pretty much covers it. It's your sister's life and you can't stop her from ruining it. You and the parents have done your due diligence, but any further attempts to pry your sister away from COM will only cause her to cling to him more desperately. One day your sister will leave the asshole and apologize to you and your parents for not listening, and the only course of action now is to avoid doing anything that pushes that day further into the future.
And how do you avoid doing that? By shutting the fuck up already. By allowing your idiot sister to screw her life up without forcing her to deny that she's doing just that. Let your sister know that you've said your piece and you're done. Once you've stopped putting her in the position of having to defend COM, maybe you can patch things up.
And once you've patched things up, MSK, maybe you can take your sister out and get her good and drunk. And once she's passed out, maybe you can slip an IUD inside her.
I wake up every morning thankful that the people I've voted into power men like George W. Bush have more important things to do than lick sperm off the ground or deal with the results of drinking too much urine.
Have a great day.
No disrespect to sperm-licker-uppers or urine drinkers everywhere, but it's entirely possible that the president can be counted among their number. A person's political leanings, competence and command of the English language tell us very little about their private sexual conduct. Indeed, one study in the mid-'90s found that conservatives were, on average, kinkier than liberals. And as we've seen time and again, folks who bitch the most about the sexual perversions of others are frequently perverse motherfuckers themselves.
Which means it's entirely possible that the president licks Dick Cheney's sperm off the ground three times a week, and that you, Mike, long to drink a tall, warm glass of Bill Frist's urine.
Straight Rights Update: Earlier this month Republicans in South Dakota successfully banned abortion in that state. Last week the GOP-controlled state house of representatives in Missouri voted to ban state-funded family planning clinics from dispensing birth control.
"If you hand out contraception to single women," one Republican state rep told the Kansas City Star, "we're saying promiscuity is okay."
On the federal level, Republicans are blocking the over-the-counter sale of emergency contraception and keeping a 100 percent effective HPV vaccine a vaccine that will save the lives of thousands of women every year from being made available.
The GOP's message to straight Americans: If you have sex, we want it to fuck up your lives as much as possible. No birth control, no emergency contraception, no abortion services, no life-saving vaccines. If you get pregnant, tough shit. You're going to have those babies, ladies, and you're going to make those child-support payments, gentlemen. And if you get HPV and it leads to cervical cancer, well, that's too bad. Have a nice funeral, slut.
What's it going to take to get a straight-rights movement off the ground? The GOP in Kansas is seeking to criminalize hetero heavy petting, for God's sake!
Wake up and smell the freaking Holy War, breeders! The religious right hates heterosexuality just as much as it hates homosexuality. Fight firstname.lastname@example.org